Your Wedding Questions Answered! (2)

Your top five questions:

Are wedding venue prices negotiable:

Most definitely! Like every business the goal of the event venue is to generate revenue and sometime they understand there would be flexibility around their pricing.

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The trick is in making the bookings many months ahead if you are getting married in the peak season (September to January in Nigeria). You might be able to get more for the same standard price. For example if you plan to use the same venue for traditional and wedding reception on different days you should be able to get a bundle package price. Some venue provide bride and groom changing room at extra cost while for some it comes as part of the package.

Nothing is cast in stone so negotiate for as much as can get. But start early!

Should wedding invitations have pictures?

The guys at Temple Square included having a picture on your invitation as a must do for wedding invitation. This what they say “why even take engagement pictures if you’re not going to include it in your invitation? Guests (aka your friends and family members) actually love to put your picture up on their refrigerator. Plus it makes the invite a little more personal, and will serve as a reminder that your wedding date is coming up!”

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I believe it would make things more creative and increase the chances of it being kept. Wedding invitation is usually discarded after wedding ceremonies and almost feels like money gone down the drain.

 Wedding vs engagement ring finger

This question got me very interested in finding answers because I have always wondered if there was a difference.

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In many Western countries, the tradition of wearing an engagement ring on the fourth finger on the left hand, can be traced back to the Ancient Romans. They believed this finger had a vein that ran directly to the heart, the Vena Amoris, meaning ‘vein of love’. With the heart at the centre of your emotions, this was thought to be the best finger to wear your engagement ring on. It showed to all the symbol of your Forever love and that your heart had been claimed by another.

MervisDiamond says “On your wedding day, you should switch your engagement ring to the third finger on your right hand (your right hand ring finger). During the ceremony, your soon to be spouse places the wedding ring on your left hand ring finger. ”

Interesting facts I found and I quote the Jewrelly Merchants, ForeverMark “wearing your engagement ring on the left hand is not a global tradition. In Russia, Germany, Norway and India, engagement rings are worn on the right hand. This derives from ‘left’, in latin, meaning ‘sinister’. Therefore, some considered the left hand unlucky.

In Sweden and Chile, it is not just brides-to-be that receive engagement rings, men wear them too. In Chile, these are worn on the right hand until marriage, when they are exchanged onto the left.

It is not just engagement rings that are exchanged as a mark of an upcoming wedding ceremony. Traditionally in China, money and other goods are exchanged instead of engagement rings. In Northern Kenya, the Samburu warriors wear ornate beadings around their neck, with certain colours used to indicate engagement.

Can I have a wedding without reception?

What! Are you African? Reception is the wedding, It is where the party Jollof Rice arrives (for Nigerians), where the Aso Ebi gang come to slay, where the turnup happens!

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Seriously speaking though, If you go by what I saw online when I researched this, it is a general belief It is rude and somewhat socially unacceptable. But I choose to look at things differently. Circumstances, Financial capabilities and family dynamics are different for each couple. The key thing is to look at what you can afford and what works for you. Many couples have (and I am sure they would continue to do so) chosen to have a registry only wedding ceremony and then Pastor/Imam’s blessing.

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Can I send wedding invitation via whatsapp?

Hmmmm, this is tricky!

But this is what The Knot Says “As much as we love the idea for bachelorette parties and other casual affairs, we recommend you use good old-fashioned paper for this one. Especially with this e-communicating world, paper invitations are simply more special. You want to elicit emotion about your wedding, so a sense of touch is important. Formal invites with tissues and multiple envelopes are not necessary. A simple card stock with laser printing can suffice. That said, the Internet is still a great way to reinforce information that you send your guests (such as driving directions or hotel specifics) via your wedding website or an emailed newsletter.

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African weddings are generally not for the couple but really for the parents. It would therefore be socially awkward and somewhat disrespectful to invite your parents friends with a whatzapp message. No matter how cheap the stationery, I think it is best to do the old fashioned physical invite.

No harm in sending your best buddies whatzapp message (especially if you are different countries and all) but even that should be a well-designed e-invite.